Vogue 73 Questions Answered by Laura’s LifeIf you’ve never heard of Vogue’s 73 questions, it is a series by Vogue whereby they ask celebrities 73 quick fire questions. There are lots of these videos online which you can watch here.Thanks to BlackPistachio for the nomination to complete a parody of Vogue 73 Questions. Apologies for taking so long to write this post but here it is. I hope you enjoy it. What’s your usual Starbucks order?To be honest, I visit Costa Coffee more than I do Starbucks and usually order a latte, hot chocolate or green tea. What does your workstation look like?My desk at work is always very neat, tidy and clean. I don’t like mess or clutter and I’m generally like that in all aspects of my life. Favourite food?My favourite food has to be pizza closely followed by chocolate. My favourite pizza topping is goats cheese and red onion. Favourite author?I don’t really have a favourite. I like Steven King novels but also motivational speakers/authors such as Tony Robbins. What do you think of open relationships?Not my cup of tea but each to their own. I’ve been in a happy relationship for 16 years. What is your favourite video game?I don’t really play video games but on the odd occasion I do, it is usually Crash Bandicoot! Guilty pleasure treat?I don’t feel guilty about treats. If I had to pick I would say I’d probably feel pretty guilty after a huge slice of double chocolate fudge cake with lots of cream only because I’m trying to be good until my holiday. Favourite movie?I like lots of different movies but a few of my notable favourites are The Goonies, Dirty Dancing, Ghost, Home Alone and Shawshank Redemption. Favourite book?I really enjoyed Tony Robbins, Awaken The Giant Within. He is such a good motivational speaker. Twitter or Instagram?Instagram. I have more Twitter followers than I do on Instagram but I get engagement from both. If I had to pick I would say I enjoy Instagram more because it’s visual. Desktop or laptop?I prefer a laptop although I don’t have one at the minute. Best advice you’ve ever received?To be a bit more selfish. As someone who suffered anxiety for many years I always struggled to say no and would always take too much on. What project are you working on right now?My blog and trying to make it more SEO friendly. Also, trying to make my Instagram a little more professional looking. Favourite colour?I like pink and nude colours generally as you can probably tell from the theme of my blog. Did you get good grades in school?Yes, 8 Standard Grades, 2 Highers and a couple of Intermediates. My best subject was English. I got a Higher A for that. Dream job?An entrepreneur with my own business and/or a full time blogger. Maybe one day. I really want to be my own boss. Play any sports?No but I like watching athletics or marathon running. Do you have a degree?Yes, BA Business and International Travel Management Nationality?Scottish/British What is your favourite kind of blog post?Blogging and social media hints and tips but I also have an interest in mental health. What do you like to collect?Handbags and perfume. I have lots of both. Describe yourself in three words?Caring, loyal and funny. If you were a rapper what would your stage name be?LJ – it was and still is my nickname. Who was the last person you DMed?My Instagram friend. What’s on top of your wish list right now?I would like to buy a camera for taking good quality photos for my blog and social media. Sorting house?Gryffindor. How many tattoos do you have?Two but planning another one soon. What are you most grateful for this year?Being in a better place with regards to my mental health. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you this month?I attended an anxiety event, without having anxiety myself. This was a big achievement. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you today?Sitting in the sun on my lunch break. What’s the best thing ever?Love. Favourite season?Summer all day long. I am a sun worshipper.Favourite holiday?Christmas. I love the cold nights and being all snuggly and warm in the house watching my favourite movies. What fictional character do you relate to most?Katniss Everdeen from The Hunger Games. She is feisty, smart and knows her own mind. Do you like surprises?I love surprises. What’s the biggest surprise you’ve ever had?New wedding rings after I lost my original ones (or a poltergeist moved them) Which surprise made you cry?None. I usually laugh more than cry! What’s the best surprise you’ve given somebody else?A trip to New York! Do you like muffins?Silly questions, of course I do. Do you cook often?Not as often as I should. What’s your favourite dessert?I have a thing for lemon cheesecake. Is there a dessert you don’t like?No, I’d pretty much eat any dessert. Cake or pie?Cake. What’s your least favourite food?Salmon and prawns. What’s your favourite condiment?Sweet chilli sauce or mayonnaise. It’s 4 am on a random Saturday. What are you eating? Left over Domino’s pizza. If you could teach a college class what would it be called?How to get rid of anxiety for good and live your best life. Best animated film?Avatar or Toy Story. What has a guy done or said to impress you?My husband spending weeks trying to get my phone number! Best thing to do on a first date?A casual dinner and drinks. Worst thing to do on a first date?Meet the parents ha ha. What’s the best pick-up line?I’m not a photographer but I can picture me and you together. Best comic book character?Superwoman. Name three things which can always be found in your purse.Lip balm, money and my mobile phone. Favourite drink?Pink gin and lemonade. If you could play a historical character in a movie who would it be?Rosalind Franklin – she made a significant contribution to the understanding of DNA. Kittens or puppies?Puppies. Favourite sushi roll?I hate sushi, yuk. What lipstick do you use?MAC or Bourjois. What foundation do you use?Rimmel Lasting Finish. Blow dry or air dry?Blow dry. Who is your fashion icon?Blake Lively (Reynolds). She is beautiful and I love her style. Favourite Disney Character?Ariel. What are you doing tomorrow?Work, social media and TV probably. Movie you laughed the hardest through?Bad Santa. Movie that made you cry?A Star Is Born. If you could sing a duet with anybody, who would you choose?Lady Gaga. If your life was a song what would the title be?Something anxiety related probably. Selena Gomez – Anxiety sums it up. What’s your favourite animal?Dog. Favourite illustrator?Laura Jane Illustrations whom I found via Instagram. Person you’d like to have coffee with?Russell Brand. Controversial, I know but I think he is interesting and I love listening to his podcasts. What country would you like to visit?Australia Best way to decompress?A warm bath, bath bomb, face mask and a book.I nominate:@LeaBellaBlogs@CaledonianTweet@TreatYoBrain@5buckstilfriday@Tinkableeblog@Fearless7123@Smitchell_Write@lauraburtonx@wingingtheworld@nyxiesnook@seedsinthewasteDo we have anything in common? Let me know in the comments below.If you enjoyed the read, you might like to check this post out. You might just find some other bloggers to follow:-MY NOMINATIONS FOR THE VERSATILE BLOGGER AWARD.Laura x
Having suffered from a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem for pretty much most of my life, social media can, if I allow it to, have a negative impact on my mental well-being. I have worked very hard this year to do all I can to recover from a difficult few years where I suffered badly with depression and anxiety. I am generally feeling quite well, however, lately I have found social media to be draining and I have felt myself beginning to feel bad about myself and the negative thoughts creeping in again. I decided to have a break from all of my social media to recharge my batteries and to take a step back and really think about what I want from social media.I love social media, I really do but it can be a bit of a double edged sword. I enjoy writing and meeting people and I have met some lovely people through Instagram, however, it can have some very real drawbacks. I was spending far too much time on social media and it was becoming a distraction. I don’t really have the time to be logged on to social media all day especially with a full time job. It was becoming a big distraction and I was also finding it hard to switch off and go to sleep at night because I was spending too much time scrolling unnecessarily.I initially set up my social media accounts to connect with friends and family and more recently, to share my love for bargains and product testing. I found myself spending far too much time on it and not living in the real world. I also began to feel stressed because it appears that all social media platforms are limiting the reach and visibility of posts which is impacting on overall engagement. I was starting to feel real pressure to get my posts noticed and felt bad and deflated when they didn’t attract as many likes or comments as I would have liked. This was the point I realised this was a problem.I am glad I was able to recognise this before my mental health took a real nosedive. Taking a step back has allowed me to look at social media objectively. No longer am I going to be basing my worth on the number of likes on my posts. This has no relevance to who I am as a person. I have realised more and more that social media is becoming less and less engaging anyway. People are focussed on the numbers and forgetting to actually engage with others and their content. I mean how hard is it to comment and like posts that you see scrolling down your feed. I worked really hard to try and be as engaging as possible but unfortunately it was very rarely, genuinely, returned. I am fed up of seeing “engagement posts” and “likes for likes” posts. It’s all false and achieves nothing. The pressure that comes with a growing following was also starting to become too much. I had roughly 4500 followers on Instagram and whilst that is not particularly high in the grand scheme of things, I was becoming more and more cautious of what I posted and when. There is also now a culture and expectation that when someone follows you that you must follow them back. If you don’t return a follow, you pretty much see that person unfollow you within a day. It’s becoming more and more prevalent and it’s a growing problem. I found myself following every account back out of courtesy but to the detriment of my own happiness and well-being. My feed was full of content which was of no relevance or interest to me and I was struggling to see the accounts that I do genuinely like and want to engage with.Having taken a little break, I have had the opportunity to review my accounts and I have decided to unfollow all of the accounts that are not bringing something positive to my life. I am not going to feel bad for doing so. It’s nothing personal to those individuals either. However, with that I have had to accept that I will lose a lot of my following too which only serves to prove my point about people only being interested in numbers. I can honestly say that going through and removing more than half of the accounts I follow has opened my eyes to the cold, hard reality that hardly any of these people ever engaged with me anyway. I do not miss them nor do I regret my decision to remove them. I have actually felt quite liberated in a way and now my feed is full of content that I do want to see. It’s much easier to find accounts I enjoy and I no longer feel depressed as I scroll through my timeline. Having less followers is also less pressure. It’s just not worth the time and effort that comes with trying to reach people when social media is geared towards sponsored posts and businesses just so the likes of Instagram and Facebook can make money. I don’t know about anyone else but just about every third post is a sponsored one and it’s boring.I have also unfollowed most social media “influencers” as I hate the falseness and the overly curated feeds with the same fake poses and smiles every day. The whole influencer market on social media is saturated and it puts me off buying products as the reviews are rarely genuine. I mean if you are being paid by a brand to promote a product, can you really ever be genuine? Yes, I have purchased products via Instagram but from accounts that I have found myself and where I happen to like a product. I have never purchased a product because some “content creator” has posted a nice photo of it.I can honestly say that since I have made these changes I am a lot happier. I am not spending as much time on social media and I will post as and when I feel like it. I don’t feel pressure to be in a specific niche. I want my account to be a reflection of me and my life, the good and the bad. If people don’t like it then that is fine with me. I am no longer bothered if someone unfollows me or doesn’t like my posts.If you feel the way I did then I think you should step back from social medial and have a digital detox. Social media can be great but it can also be very detrimental to your mental health. No-one should be basing their self-worth on the number of likes on a post nor should you be under pressure to portray the perfect lifestyle. Social media is the highlight reel and everyone has their own personal struggles when they log out at the end of the day.I understand that Instagram has been trialling hiding the number of likes on posts in certain countries. I personally would welcome this change as it would mean less pressure and Instagram can go back to what it was originally intended for. I hope that it will make people more authentic and engaging. I really hope this is introduced soon for the benefit of the younger generation who don’t need this sort of pressure.